It is no coincidence that classic writers romanticized the wave of eyebrows and the twinkling of eyelashes of their heroines. Modern researchers have confirmed that with the help of such non-verbal signs we transmit up to 93% of information. Moreover, the methods of communication without words include not only facial expressions and gestures, but even smells and objects with which we surround ourselves.
We at Happy Worthy Life analyzed hundreds of tricks that help you to influence others without words. We decided to tell you about the 9 most unexpected psychological tricks.
1. To locate a person, consider the color of his eyes
This will help from the first seconds to establish a trusting relationship with an unfamiliar interlocutor. The time it takes to carefully examine the color of his eyes matches the length of the perfect eye contact. According to psychologists, it should last from 3 to 5 seconds. If you do not look into the interlocutor’s eyes at all or, on the contrary, look at him for longer than 9 seconds, he may become unpleasant.
2. Do not start a conversation with a new interlocutor immediately – give him time to swing
Once you have made eye contact, do not immediately start a conversation. Take a few seconds to hang up your coat, open your bag, slide your chair. This will give your interlocutor time to make a first impression about you. In the course of further conversation, he will not be distracted, noting new details in your behavior, because he already managed to consider you.
3. Touching the leg of the glass will help to talk about sympathy.
Psychological experiments show that stroking cylindrical objects is subconsciously perceived as a non-verbal sign of sympathy. If a girl wants to show a young man that he is not indifferent to her, she just needs to touch the leg of the glass. The pen will have the same effect if you hold it in your hand, and even a ring that you can accidentally twist on your finger.
4. Point the toe to the side of the interlocutor – this will reduce the social distance
If you are sitting in a foot-to-foot position, point the toe of the person you are interested in with your toe. Such a gesture helps to reduce social distance, because it is subconsciously perceived as an attempt to get closer. Moreover, this pose does not violate the personal boundaries of other people, so it can be used even in business communication.
5. Thanks to the gesture “okay” you can demonstrate authority without unnecessary aggression
If you need to attract the attention of the interlocutor or the audience, but at the same time you do not want to seem too aggressive, use a little trick. Imagine that you are holding a needle between your thumb and forefinger, as if showing the gesture “okay”. During the conversation, try to gently demonstrate an imaginary needle to others. So your gesticulation will be, on the one hand, natural, and on the other, focusing attention on important points.
6. If you are bored, hint at it with your hands.
If the topic of the conversation does not interest you, but at the same time you do not want to offend the interlocutor, hint to him with gestures. First, just touch your cheek with your hand – this will show that you are not too interested. If the interlocutor does not understand the hint, put your head in your palm. If this does not help, you will have to resort to heavy artillery and lean on your fist. Of course, this is not too polite, but your interlocutor was not very attentive to you, since I still did not understand that you were bored.
7. If a person tells you unpleasant things, look closely at his forehead
To avoid a conversation with a toxic interlocutor, who for some reason decided to inform you that you have recovered or you do not have a new hairstyle, look closely at his forehead. This view symbolizes power and suppression. Even if you don’t feel so confident in yourself, this simple hack will help you psychologically rebuild and move from the victim’s state to a dominant position.
8. To take a pause in a conversation, stage a machine gesture
If you are asked to make a decision that you want to reflect on, start wiping your glasses. This gesture will seem to your interlocutor to be automatic, while he will understand that you are thinking about the answer and will expect it silently, without distracting you. If you don’t wear glasses, any other gestures that seem machine-based will do, for example, you can check the button on the shirt or adjust the decoration.
9. Keep left if you are claiming leadership
This interesting phenomenon was discovered by political scientists who analyzed the PR campaigns of presidential candidates. They noticed that applicants who were on the left hand of the photographer (that is, on the right, if you look at the finished picture) made a stronger impression on the audience. Of course, this rule works, all other things being equal: if one person in the photo clearly dominates the other due to posture or charisma, the position to the left of the photographer will not help.
And what tricks of nonverbal communication do you know? How did they help you in life?
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