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What “Innocent” Habits Turn Us Into Real Abuse and How Can Fix It

Ableism is the case when you suggest a friend who is on a strict diet to try a piece of your delicious cake, because “nothing will happen.” Or when you parked in a place reserved for people with disabilities, “for a moment.” Or when you tell a friend suffering from depression that “all the problems are just in the head.” Whether you realize it or not, you harm the feelings of these people, devalue their difficulties and ignore their needs.

Editorial Happy Worthy Life wants to talk about the concept Ableism and the various forms that it takes. Let’s take a look together at our “harmless” habits that can actually hurt others.

What is Ableism?

What “Innocent” Habits Turn Us Into Real Abusers and How Can Fix It

The term “Ableism” has been used since 1981 and defines “discrimination and social prejudice against people with disabilities based on the belief that the superiority of ordinary abilities”. In practice, Ableism is a set of beliefs, words and actions that discriminate against people with physical or mental disabilities and do not respect their rights and needs . People who practice these actions and share these beliefs are called eiblists.

In everyday life, Ableism appears in thousands of different situations. For example, when you use amenities designed for people with special needs, or when you doubt the need to provide them with these amenities at work or in public places. Ableism even lies in the fact that when you tell your colleague (of whose incompetence you know) that he does not look sick at all. Similar cases include admiration for people with disabilities who just live a normal life, like everyone else. In whatever form he expresses himself, Ableism harms people and destroys trust and mutual respect between us.

People share examples of how each of us can be an elitist, so it’s important to know who they are.

What “Innocent” Habits Turn Us Into Real Abusers and How Can Fix It

A couple of months ago, users of social networks launched the hashtag #YouMightBeAbleistIf to describe life situations in which we can intentionally or accidentally hurt the feelings of people with disabilities. We looked at the posts with this hashtag on Twitter and selected a few vividly illustrating the idea of ​​Eism. We hope that these posts will help all of us to be more attentive to each other’s feelings and needs.

#You Can Be Aeblist If you are surprised that a person with a disability may have a professional degree, wife, children, work or business, and that he has any abilities at all.

What “Innocent” Habits Turn Us Into Real Abusers and How Can Fix It
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Machine with a lift for wheelchairs.

#You Can Be Aeblist If you completely ignore a child who claims to have problems with socialization / learning / understanding / concentration, and attribute it to laziness or lack of self-control.

What “Innocent” Habits Turn Us Into Real Abusers and How Can Fix It

#You Can Be Aeblist If you regularly ignore the boundaries of people with disabilities in the name of “help”. If you did not bother to first ask about its necessity, then you do this not for us, but in order to feel like a hero.

What “Innocent” Habits Turn Us Into Real Abusers and How Can Fix It
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#You Can Be Aeblist If the first thing that comes to your mind in response to someone else’s story about your personal struggle is to tell them that there are other people who are much worse off.

#You Can Be Aeblist If you think that eating healthy will solve your health problems or relieve disability. Vegetables won’t heal me, Karen!

What “Innocent” Habits Turn Us Into Real Abusers and How Can Fix It

#You Can Be Aeblist If you do not see me as disabled. It’s not a compliment. I want you to see me as disabled, because I am disabled. When you deny this, you are trying to destroy the fundamental aspect of my personality.

What “Innocent” Habits Turn Us Into Real Abusers and How Can Fix It
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#You Can Be Aeblist If you think you have the right to publicly chat with my service dog without asking permission.

#You Can Be Aeblist If you commemorate every teenager who comes to prom with a dysfunctional person. They don’t need medals for treating people like people.

Can you recall other examples of widespread ejsm? Have you ever been an eiblist?

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